Case of the Ex
Aloha mai, and welcome back to my mystical corner of the internet!
This week, I wanted to dive a little deeper into the topic of energetic cords—specifically, energetic hooks. Ever heard of having “watchers” in your aura? It’s essentially when weak spots in your auric field cause energetic leakage, allowing those who might wish you ill (like an ex-friend or past partner) to attach themselves to your energy and keep tabs on you. It's wild but very real, and these types of energetic hooks and drains can leave you feeling depleted or weighed down.
I’ve personally experienced this. I used to have an ex who would randomly pop up in my dreams, and each time, it felt like he was watching me. I remember one dream vividly: I was in a shop with large glass windows, and there was this giant eye peering in, searching for me. The feeling was eerie, as if I were a doll in a dollhouse under surveillance. Each time he appeared in my dreams, I felt drained, and even though it had been years since we’d had contact, he kept showing up energetically despite my regular grounding and energy-clearing practices.
When I learned about the benefits of cord cutting and hook removal, I knew it was time to cut that energetic tie for good. I worked to locate lingering cords in my heart and sacral chakras—no surprise there, as those were areas he’d once been deeply connected to. The hooks, though, were unexpected. I found one in my throat chakra, hindering my ability to fully express myself, and another in my root chakra, affecting my sense of safety and grounding.
Removing these hooks and cords was powerful but required me to face long-buried emotions and energies that had been deeply rooted for years. I realized it wasn’t just his energy I needed to clear but also my own shadow work—to face the past version of myself who had been in that relationship, who had allowed disrespect, and who hadn’t yet known her worth. It’s confronting, yes, but this is what true healing looks like. Shadow work isn’t always about the popular practices like past-life regression or curse removals; it’s about diving into the depths of your own experiences, dredging up what’s uncomfortable, and ultimately embracing those parts with love and acceptance. Those parts of us that are in pain or shame are often the ones that need the most compassion.
And it worked! Since completing that cord cutting and hook removal, I haven’t dreamt about that ex—or any ex. It feels like a weight lifted, and I can finally hold my energy as my own.
If you’re on a journey of self-awareness and healing, but still find yourself running into the same energetic walls or emotional patterns, you don’t have to face it all alone. Sometimes, having someone who’s been there to help guide you through those depths can make all the difference. Whether it’s cutting cords with that toxic ex or uncovering ancestral ties and past-life contracts that might be holding you back, I’m here to support you. Together, we can reclaim your energy and help you move forward with clarity. Remember, when you heal, it ripples out into the collective.
So here’s to freedom, clarity, and honoring our journey. Until next time, take care of your energy and know that every step you take to heal also helps the world heal. 🌙✨
x Alohilani